How can you be a better man, a better husband, a better father and a better friend? Well, it’s a catch 22 because being wild and dangerous will improve your capabilities for all of these. Men have a wild soul, we are built to overcome struggle and experience adversity. We evolved over a period of somewhere around 150,000 years of battling to keep our families fed and alive. We needed to be able to kill, fight, hunt, struggle and overcome and the men who got the most emotional and physical benefit from this were more likely to reproduce. In a time when 70% of all babies died before they reached maturity, reproduction was imperative. Why does this matter? This matters because not only were your great ancestors masters at all of these things, they got pleasure from the accomplishment, they got stronger and happier and then took their mate again and again and spread their genes to new generations, your soul has been breed for danger and you are squandering it.
How can we be sure this is true? Lets take a sports guy and put him on his field of choice with similar competency competitors and watch him glow, take a car guy and put him on a track in a car that tests his driving abilities and how about a the sole focused entrepreneur, give him one of the most intense weeks of his life with his dream being built on his own back and watch him rise to the occasion. Men! we are built for battle and so many of us are sitting on the couch, eating baked goods, scrolling tiktok and wondering why our mental health is so poor.
Get off your ass and invest yourself in a challenge, this will be a different pursuit for every man but it needs to be hard, adverse and rewarding. Learn jui-jitsu, join a gym of monsters, build a race car, book a back country hunt, climb a mountain, just do something! The key here is that it has to be challenging but not impossible. Something just out of your reach. For some men it will be something done with other men and for some it needs to be alone. Take time, only you know yourself and what lights your fuse. “Most men die at age25, we just don’t bury them until age 70” Benjamin Franklin.
